Finding the ideal sex position is important whether you’re in a sexual rut or starting over; these tried-and-tested recommendations from sexual therapists feel good for both partners, helping your orgasm last longer.
This variation of missionary allows the penetrating partner to take control and direct thrusting for increased sensation and pressure. Furthermore, it’s an intimate and thrilling way of seducing both partners simultaneously.
Legs Above the Shoulders
This seductive position, commonly referred to as The Anvil (not so obscurely), adds a unique flair to classic missionary stance. Ideal for beginners as it’s easy to get into and provides ample visibility of partner for focussing penetration, according to Siannise.
Penetrating partner lies on their back with legs in butterfly position–feet together and knees spread–and the receiving partner lies atop. When in this position, receiving partner can straddle their bottom leg to penetrate. Additionally, this position makes an excellent starting point for more intense foreplay.
Scissor Straddle adds another angle of penetration by lying with your heads at opposite ends of the bed and creating an X shape with your bodies by crossing one leg under another before straddling them, with one partner inside you holding onto their hands for control.
If you’re feeling adventurous, the Piledriver position may be for you. While more complex in terms of flexibility requirements, this position allows the penetrator to directly hit their G-spot with their fingers or penis and provide satisfying stimulation to both partners involved. Ideal for beginners seeking to expand their erotic potential.
If you’re seeking something more sensual than the classic missionary position, try the Face Sitting position (sometimes referred to as Queening). This sexy pose focuses on eye contact and can be used both for intimate conversations as well as intimacy as you lean back and rest against each other’s chests. Face Sitting poses are great way to increase pleasure for both partners as well as providing the ideal place for couples’ sex toys that target cervical stimulation.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl is an iconic sex position that can bring out both partners’ satisfaction, but women can especially relish its pleasures. Women love this position because it gives them control of their pleasure by choosing pace, depth, and angle of penetration,” according to Rachel Smith LMFT, couples and sex therapist. It helps find their sweet spot and increase likelihood of orgasm!
For this position, your partner lays on their back with legs out straight. You sit straddling on top of them facing their head. Depending on your comfort level, you may grip their shoulders or chest for support; to add to this experience even further, try wiggling in circular motions – this may stimulate nipples, clitoris and G-spot areas which may help accelerate penetration during penetrative intercourse and help facilitate faster climaxes during penetrating intercourse sessions.
If you are feeling uncertain of attempting this position with your partner yet, seated missionary could be an ideal compromise: both sit upright in chairs with backs facing one another instead of lying down on a bed together. Or for something a bit more adventurous try reverse cowgirl: both turn around so their faces face each other while remaining sitting up right; this allows close eye contact during penetration as well as kisses from each side during penetration.
Another advantage of this sex position is its ease of reaching orgasm; you can directly stimulate the clitoris with your fingertips, while asking your partner to do the same. Furthermore, grinding against their pubic bone adds even more friction and stimulation to this region; additionally if you have a vibrator you can place around their penis add even further stimulation to this part of the experience.
One way to increase the pleasure of this sex position is to add oral sex beforehand. Antonia Hall suggests standing and kneeling while your partner bends over in a spoon position or just having them lie on their bed or sofa and giving oral sex before using this position.
Legs Behind the Back
Van Kirk proposes this alternative missionary position as an engaging alternative, although it requires more strength from one partner than usual to maintain. According to him, however, this makes for an exciting way for couples to maximize their time between sheets: key is keeping legs straight without allowing the body to slump – „that gives a bigger boost and makes the experience really intense”.
„Receiving partners may straddle their penetrating partner with one leg inside his hip and another outside his hip, providing greater creative range of motion as well as access to various erogenous zones down their legs and feet,” notes Michael. Additionally, hands can also be used for stimulation.
Cross is another variation on the legs-behind-the-back position. Here, one partner lies down in standard missionary pose while bending their knees over their partner’s ass/torso as their penis owner enters. This unique angle offers maximum clitoral stimulation!
If you want to be the queen of seduction, try coaxing your partner into this pose on their back. It can be done in bed or somewhere more romantic like a staircase – „if it’s on an attractive staircase it makes it even more exciting,” Van Kirk suggests.
Gynecologists and sexologists agree, this position is one of the sexiest. Dubbed the Victoria because of its intense sensual stimulation, this position makes for perfect clitoral stimulation – it makes an especially great hand grinder position!
For those of us seeking to be more assertive in the bedroom, this move can help. The sexy crouch position is perfect for those with longer vulvas; not only can it increase oral stimulation intensity, but penetrators can use their hands for extra hand stimulation and adjust depth and speed of thrusting; alternatively they could wrap their fingers around your recipient partner’s hips for extra pressure!
Hands Free
The hands-free sex position is ideal for anyone who requires their fingers to explore the clitoral zone or those with vulvas who require extra assistance with penetration. Plus, it’s simple and straightforward on any flat surface, giving penetrators control of depth while giving their partner access to other erogenous zones like their legs and feet!
No matter your experience level in the bedroom, switching up your routine and trying out different positions to increase pleasure can only benefit both partners. Check out these best sex positions to add variety and excitement to your sessions in the bedroom–you might even discover orgasms you didn’t even know existed!
For those seeking more exciting sex poses, try the helicopter sex position, amazon sex pose or wheelbarrow pose. And for optimal oral and clitoral stimulation try either reverse scoop sex position or ballet dancer poses.