Video sex can be thrilling and adventurous, but it is essential that we put safety first. Consider purchasing an action camera designed specifically to be mounted to bicycles and helmets to stay safe while enjoying it.
Telephone sex goes beyond just exchanging some explosive lines (for more help on that front, check out The Dirty Talking Guide), it is about creating an elaborate fantasy world and connecting emotionally with your man.
Light Up Your Bedroom
Your space is tidy, your pleasure props within easy reach and the mood is set. Set your phone to Do Not Disturb mode and wear headphones (this prevents people around from hearing what’s going on as well as leaving both hands free for play with yourself). Put it vibrate mode and put on some music – and get ready for an amazing calling experience!
And remember that virtual sex can take many forms – from flirtatious text conversations and flirtatious Snapchats, all the way up to more explicit video calls and even calls with two parties connected over video call. Consent should always be sought, both online and off. To stay safe, no identifying information or explicit material should be shared before feeling comfortable sharing any. For beginners entering the world of virtual sex, foreplay can help ease you in to it and take your experience even further!
Practice Finding Your Favorite Positions
If you and your partner are feeling nervous about FaceTime sex, practicing together beforehand may help both of you feel more at ease with the experience and learn how to communicate sensually over the phone. Be open and honest as possible during this practice session; ensure your lingerie and lighting meet with each situation.
As you practice with your partner, ask what they like and dislike about the various positions. You might discover they’re more interested in one than you thought initially! Also remember to obtain their consent prior to every session to ensure they’re happy with its outcome and won’t be taken by surprise when sexual encounters come up during sexual encounters.
Take this time to tease each other through sexting. If you know you’re going to have an exciting session, send your partner some photos of them dressed provocatively or wearing their favorite body oil before the call begins – this will build excitement for their virtual rendezvous and will ensure an intimate, sexy vibe during their virtual rendezvous!
Once you and your partner are more experienced with FaceTime sex, it can be exciting to try out various positions and approaches. You could place the camera closer to your genitalia for an intimate view or kneeling in front of it; or for something truly daring try spooning – a classic position which often results in some intense climaxes!
Your preferred sex position can tell us much about who you are as an individual, according to The Daily Star. According to this source, men who prefer lying back may indicate a desire for comfort over intimacy; conversely if doggy style sex positions are more appealing it could indicate need for intimacy or closeness between partners.
Remember that your phone sex should be just as intimate and sensual as its in-person equivalent. Have a discussion with your partner regarding boundaries and what activities are acceptable/unacceptable in the bedroom, including creating a safety word so one of you knows when it is time to stop having fun and discuss other matters.
Don’t Be Afraid of Dirty Talk
Dirty talk can be an effective way to turn up the heat and entice your partner into more intimate sexual positions, but it may also feel intimidating or awkward for newcomers and longstanding couples who may have established an established sexual script.
Talking dirty doesn’t necessarily entail swearing or dropping F-bombs (though if that is what excites you, more power to you!). Instead, it involves using seduction language to communicate your desire to be touched and heighten anticipation for orgasmic pleasures to come. Doing this can strengthen intimacy between partners as well as foster deeper bonds within any relationships – both physically and otherwise.
For easier naughty talk, it can help to have a word bank of inappropriate words or phrases to draw from in the moment. For instance, when feeling creative you could write down some of your favorite erotic terms and read them to yourself while masturbating or staring into the mirror. Record yourself so you can see how it sounds; this way you’ll become used to verbally communicating your desires more readily.
Once you’ve honed in on some naughty phrases that suit you, test out your new vocabulary in real-life sex encounters before beginning to incorporate them into video sex conversations. Don’t be intimidated; ask your partner to speak up when necessary or better still surprise them with a phone call or FaceTime sexy video call!
As part of an isolationist strategy during a pandemic, video chat sex can be an ideal way to stay intimate and strengthen relationships while quarantining yourself at home. Just make sure to regularly check in with your partner to make sure they’re enjoying it and providing enthusiastic consent; if in doubt ask them how it makes them feel or what would make the next session funnier.
Be Your Own Fluffers
If you’re just getting into fluffing, it may feel daunting and awkward at first. Talk to your co-star beforehand about any feelings of discomfort they might be having and find ways to make things more playful or sensual; perhaps a glass of wine would also do wonders!
Know who you’re working with is essential, and if unsure whether a friend wants to be the center of attention in your film don’t force it onto them; that kind of manipulation won’t serve either of you well.
As your filming skills improve, you may wish to try making longer videos or even movies – but don’t expect it to look exactly like professional porn! Homemade naughty movies usually don’t turn out how they were imagined in your head but can still be hot!
If you’re considering becoming a fluffer for your girlfriend, be aware that she may get emotional before filming begins – this is perfectly normal and often results in her fulfilling her fantasies about what being fluffed is going to be like!
The Fluffer is a film that explores the myth of Echo and Narcissus – a gay man longing for an image of himself that resonates with him in films, magazine spreads, or video boxes of sex-for-pay porn stars. While some might find this subject controversial, The Fluffer touches upon internalized homophobia while simultaneously searching for an image that fits them fully.