Pornography offers an unrealistic depiction of sexuality and love. It promotes ideas such as commitment being boring and sexual activity being performed for the camera without genuine affection between partners.
Temple University’s new course attempts to alter this narrative by exploring pornography within an academic setting. Here’s why this may be beneficial:
1. You’ll have an orgasm every time.
Porn often gets a bad rap: from accusations of altering brain wiring and changing perspectives about sexuality to its link with erectile dysfunction, making many reluctant to introduce it into their relationships.
But it’s important to keep in mind that sex porn is not reality. „Pornography is an exaggerated representation of sexuality and masturbation,” according to Madeleine Castellanos, an NYC psychiatrist and sex therapist who told Mic. People are more than what meets the eye.
Porn does not always depict women climaxing, and watching porn does not equate to getting orgasms during partnered sex. Instead, finding what makes you happy requires experimenting with various toys and lubricants that promote sexual pleasure.
Audio porn offers an immersive experience. It involves an audible cacophony of slapping, moaning, grunting and other sounds reminiscent of club life. „The best way to describe it would be like being part of your own private gang bang with your closest friends,” according to Michael – an English writer for Femtasy who lives and works in Berlin as a sex worker.
2. You’ll be Oscar-worthy in bed.
Art projects don’t always turn out the way we envision them in our heads, and homemade naughty videos can often be an unpredictable process of trial-and-error – which adds to their appeal! While you might not have access to the professional sets and crew used by porn stars when they create films, with enough practice you too can craft hot videos!
Remember, however, that porn doesn’t reflect real sex experiences; rather it caters largely to an audience of straight men, so often features minimal or nonexistent foreplay with use of misogynist language and physical acts like slapping.
Not many couples enjoy sexual encounters this way, but this video serves as a reminder that when watching porn, it’s best to do it with an open mind and awareness of what’s being sold to you. And if problematic parts of porn bother you, there are plenty of erotic fiction options such as XConfessions and PinkLabel that offer fair trade porn without exploitative conditions.
3. Every guy you sleep with will be very well endowed.
Pornography often focuses around clitoris, nipples and other body parts for orgasming purposes, requiring you to stimulate these areas in order to find fulfillment – this may result in unnaturally high dopamine surges, impotence and overmasturbation without satisfaction as well as an increase in taste for various forms of porn.
Pornography doesn’t accurately represent what sex feels like in real life either, due to most professional pornographies’ focus on positions that look best for camera. Therefore, in order to experience an orgasm you may require contorting yourself in ways which feel awkward and physically exhausting – making an orgasm even harder than imagined!
Research has demonstrated that frequent viewing of porn can over time weaken the part of the brain responsible for moral decision-making and willpower, leading them to report an improvement in relationships with friends, family and intimate partners when they stop viewing porn. They regain an enthusiasm for life that they had lost along with discovering new ways of connecting with those closest to them – something which has a positive effect on work as well as other activities.
4. You’ll be able to control your body.
An honest conversation about porn may seem uncomfortable at first, but if you have already disclosed your masturbation habits and other sexual fantasies with them, having one about watching porn together should come across less as unexpected and surprise them less than when talking about masturbating on your own or alone. Furthermore, it makes sense to get everyone on board before introducing something unfamiliar into their life.
By watching porn, it’s possible to gain invaluable knowledge about your own body – but remember, pornography is not real life and should be treated as such. When watching, take care to pay attention to yourself during sessions, paying close attention to any sexually stimulating areas or zones on the screen that appear during viewing sessions.
Squirting may not be as common as depicted on porn, and most women do not squirt at all; while most guys can, but may not want to. Squirting can often require additional work on behalf of actors who want the scene. If you’re having trouble, why not get yourself a toy that syncs up with your phone for ease of squirting?
5. You’ll be able to communicate with your partner.
Pornography may provide advice for improving sexual satisfaction in relationships, but these strategies might not apply directly in real life. Numerous studies on this subject reveal that men who regularly watch porn report lower relationship quality than those who don’t consume any such media.
Reasons behind this could include pornography creating an unrealistic representation of sexual intimacy, leading people to assume real sex is similar to what they see on screen and that recreating these scenes as much as possible will foster intimacy within relationships.
If you enjoy watching sex porn, it’s essential that you discuss it with your partner and keep communication open about your views on this form of entertainment. Regular dialogue helps set an expectation-managing routine after viewing anything that might be emotionally or physically disturbing – which many sex educators recommend doing after viewing anything potentially trigger-worthy. Furthermore, communication between two will keep expectations realistic while helping keep expectations accurate about what sex porn actually represents.
6. You’ll be able to express your feelings.
Pornography may be designed to amuse and excite viewers, but it’s important to remember that it’s not real life. Exposure to pornography could affect an individual’s understanding of what sexual intimacy feels like and looks like; this could set unrealistic expectations within relationships.
It’s normal for certain people to find certain body parts stimulating or appealing; some sexual fetishes include wanting to see two women kiss each other or have an affair with their boss, among many others. And it can change over time;
Communicating about the sexually explicit material you consume and its effect on your relationship can be extremely helpful. While it may not always be easy, being honest about what you watch is essential in maintaining healthy relationships. You could even watch some porn together if this is something both parties enjoy – just make sure that all parties involved remain clear on what’s happening before, during, and after any viewing session!
7. You’ll be able to have a committed relationship.
Being part of a relationship that enjoys kinky sex can be very helpful in making sure both partners share your sexual fantasies, thus helping avoid awkward misunderstandings that could potentially erode intimacy in your relationship.
Unfortunately, media often rushes to judgement about porn and relationships before research can catch up with it. That is why Temple University professor Jennifer Pollitt created her class „Social Perspectives and Digital Pornography,” designed to give students a safe space where they can openly discuss subjects that they may never discuss with their closest friends.
Sex porn can teach us an important lesson: that real-life sex is far more complex than what we see on YouTube or Pornhub. It may involve sweaty bodies, body odor, queefing or farting sounds and other gross bodily noises – yet intimate relationships and rewarding sexual encounters should always be our aim!
8. You’ll be able to have a healthy respect for sex.
Pornography portrays an unrealistic and superficial version of love and intimacy. It often portrays commitment as boring, sexual encounters as occurring without mutual pleasure or respect, and sexually available people as endlessly desirable. Unfortunately, most people are often busy, have illnesses, stressed-out or tired which prevents them from being sexually available all of the time; also remembering that true intimacy doesn’t just revolve around looking sexy but involves loving, caring for, respecting others as well.
Watching porn reinforces these ideas and can lead to dangerous, violent behavior. While traditional erotica doesn’t promote harmful beliefs directly, it does bolster them in those already susceptible.
Keep in mind that people on screen are not real and that any moaning and screaming they do for entertainment purposes is an act to titillate rather than natural responses to sexual stimulation. Furthermore, the perception that sexual content provides instant thrills may lead to risky behaviors which must be changed for elimination of harm caused by pornography.